Life isn't an Instagram picture

Hi guys! This is not the post I had scheduled for this week but I thought it was a very important one to make in the beginning stages of she boss. Let's be real, life isn't an Instagram picture. 

Perfection is impossible

I often use the word perfect, I even named my pigments perfect! But learned to use the word lightly because No one is perfect so please don't feel bad if you aren't. Perfect lives do not exist. Everyone is seemingly facing their own personal struggles and although it may look good on the outside you'd never really know. 

Comparisonitis can kill

Comparing yourself to others is literally (like literally) THE worst thing you can do. It is the thief of joy and you will make yourself miserable, quickly. I'm sure you have all heard the saying 'don't compare your chapter 1 to someone else's chapter 10.' Yet we find ourselves endlessly scrolling through people IG feeds like damn, why hasn't this happened to me? You only have control over one life... Yours. So focus on you, your blessings and your journey. Do not waste another moment focusing on other people lives.

Be your authentic self 

There is no one youer than you. So start to get comfortable in your own skin, love the imperfect things about you! There are 7.6 BILLION people in the world and guess what, there's the only one you so embrace it. It's easy to forget all the things that uniquely make you, you and get distracted by other peoples 'fabulous' lives on IG. Trust me when I say, there is no one else I'd rather be than me ( not even Beyonce lol). You may not be where you want to be but have faith, you will get there.

Social Media only shows what they want you to see 

Have you ever hear of FaceTune? Its a phenomenon, used in the Beauty industry to blur out imperfections. 'Artists' post client pics and smooth the hell out of the bad blending & non-matching foundation. Then when a client shows up to get their makeup done, they will be left like This isn't what I saw on IG. FaceTune is a great example on how easily you can make things look fab even if they aren't. Don't fall for the hype. Honestly, you have no idea what is going on in these peoples' day to day lives. They might be struggling, unhappy, broke or worse. So why are you wishing to be them? These people (for all we know) might have to do some unpretty things to get those holidays & designer items you wish for. So work your regular job and live your regular life and enjoy it!

I'm not here to tell you how to have a perfect life. sbdiaries is the diary of my not so perfect life in business and as a woman. I have and still do fall into the trap of comparisonitis but have to just give myself that kick in the ass. I'm a boss and no one can do it like me! I'm learning to love all the imperfect things about me. Like the scar on my nose, my very south Londoner slang, my spelling mistakes and sometimes not being able to say the things I'm feeling out loud.

It's okay, we all do it so let's share our imperfections and let's Boss up together!

love,